SL Discussion: Leadership

[8:56] Pose Ball: Daisy Bosatsu, say 'Hide' to hide me, or 'Show' to make me show. Or just right-click and sit on me to use me.
[9:02] Pose Ball: Cameron Reinard, say 'Hide' to hide me, or 'Show' to make me show. Or just right-click and sit on me to use me.
[9:05] LincolnLog Rokocoko: hey nice of you to join me
[9:07] You: Good Morning Friend
[9:07] LincolnLog Rokocoko: gutten tag
[9:07] LincolnLog Rokocoko: i dont know if that's th correct spelling
[9:07] You: How have you been doing?
[9:07] LincolnLog Rokocoko: but you get the idea
[9:08] LincolnLog Rokocoko: pretty good and yourself?
[9:08] You: Ya more or less
[9:08] You: I'm doing great, I went on a 14 mile hike before this.
[9:08] You: So, we're supposed to be here to talk about what a leader is.
[9:08] LincolnLog Rokocoko: for real or are you in character?
[9:08] You: You decide
[9:08] You: haha
[9:08] LincolnLog Rokocoko: lol
[9:09] LincolnLog Rokocoko: ok make things interesting
[9:09] LincolnLog Rokocoko: lets see
[9:09] LincolnLog Rokocoko: I was just analyzing my dreams
[9:09] You: What are the top three qualities you believe a leader should possess?
[9:10] Denton Dawg: Good morning
[9:10] You: Then well talk aobut your dreams
[9:10] You: Good morning Denton
[9:10] LincolnLog Rokocoko: a good listener, conviction, and commitment
[9:10] You: Nice
[9:10] Denton Dawg: Morning Freud...and...?
[9:10] Denton Dawg: May I ask for your name?
[9:11] You: Mine I believe are someone willing to speak out, possesing the abbility to see the whole picture, and to listen to both sides of a story then make judgment on all information, whether popular or not.
[9:11] You: My name is Vida, But my friends call me Grayson.
[9:11] You: Denton what do you think a leader is?
[9:11] LincolnLog Rokocoko: alright Grayson
[9:11] LincolnLog Rokocoko: i think those are great qualities
[9:11] Denton Dawg: A leader knows how to teach by example
[9:11] You: Thanks, I really like yours too
[9:12] Denton Dawg: One who is persevering
[9:12] Denton Dawg: and confident
[9:12] Denton Dawg: and simply gets the job done as a collective
[9:12] You: I feel like all of these qualities sort of intertwine
[9:12] LincolnLog Rokocoko: definitely
[9:12] You: Like if you have the ability for speak for what you want, you must be confident
[9:12] You: And so forth
[9:12] LincolnLog Rokocoko: i think that there are some more vague underlying qualities that all of thes thigns share
[9:12] LincolnLog Rokocoko: we should try to figure out what they are
[9:12] You: And if your committed to an idea, you will speak out for it
[9:12] Denton Dawg: I definitely agree
[9:13] You: I would like that
[9:13] LincolnLog Rokocoko: so confidence
[9:13] Denton Dawg: Passion drives leaders, I believe
[9:13] You: We all have passions that propel us forward
[9:13] LincolnLog Rokocoko: passion
[9:13] Pose Ball: Daisy Bosatsu, say 'Hide' to hide me, or 'Show' to make me show. Or just right-click and sit on me to use me.
[9:13] Pose Ball: Daisy Bosatsu, say 'Hide' to hide me, or 'Show' to make me show. Or just right-click and sit on me to use me.
[9:13] You: Exactly Lincoln log
[9:13] Pose Ball: Daisy Bosatsu, say 'Hide' to hide me, or 'Show' to make me show. Or just right-click and sit on me to use me.
[9:13] LincolnLog Rokocoko: lol you can call me Siggy
[9:13] You: What are some of your guys passions?
[9:13] LincolnLog Rokocoko: haha
[9:13] Daisy Bosatsu: hey sorry i was in the wrong group
[9:13] Denton Dawg: Medicine.
[9:14] Denton Dawg: and music
[9:14] You: Alright Siggy, any nicknames for you denton?
[9:14] Denton Dawg: Just Denton.
[9:14] You: Hey daisy!
[9:14] Daisy Bosatsu: hey
[9:14] You: Alright that works
[9:14] Daisy Bosatsu: hi denton
[9:14] You: We have been talking about what qualities leaders should possess
[9:14] LincolnLog Rokocoko: my passions?
[9:14] You: Any things in particular?
[9:14] You: Let's wait for Daisy to answer first, then well all talk about passions
[9:14] LincolnLog Rokocoko: art, architecture, music, mocies
[9:15] LincolnLog Rokocoko: i think i just really like creating things or things that were created
[9:15] LincolnLog Rokocoko: but particularly things that a lot of thought were put into
[9:15] Daisy Bosatsu: i think a leader should first of all be a very strong person in several aspects
[9:15] You: Such as?
[9:15] LincolnLog Rokocoko: oh sorry
[9:15] You: Hold on Sig
[9:15] You: haha
[9:15] LincolnLog Rokocoko: lol
[9:15] Daisy Bosatsu: motivation, determination, etc
[9:15] You: Nice
[9:16] You: Ya we all decided passion
[9:16] Denton Dawg: Common threads
[9:16] Daisy Bosatsu: i really think straight right now!!!
[9:16] Denton Dawg: Daist, may I ask for your name?
[9:16] You: So Siggy, anything created- does that include nature?
[9:16] Daisy Bosatsu: jessica
[9:16] Denton Dawg: Embodied by?
[9:16] LincolnLog Rokocoko: absolutely
[9:16] You: I mean ultimately it was created by some thing
[9:16] Daisy Bosatsu: hey what are guys talking about
[9:16] You: Fantastic, nature, or exploring an discovery are my passions
[9:17] Denton Dawg: We are talking about passions
[9:17] You: What passions motivate us
[9:17] Daisy Bosatsu: ok, cool
[9:17] You: What about you denton?
[9:17] Denton Dawg: Medicine and music.
[9:17] Denton Dawg: And of course, my wife, Louise
[9:17] Daisy Bosatsu: my biggest passion is working hard and helping others
[9:17] You: Those are all fantastic.
[9:17] Daisy Bosatsu: that was sweet denton
[9:18] You: So in what ways of you guys pursued your passions while exhibiting leadership?
[9:18] You: have*
[9:18] You: Or exhibited leadership while pursuing passions rather
[9:18] Daisy Bosatsu: being promoted to supervisor at my job
[9:18] LincolnLog Rokocoko: what about you Grayson? what are your passions?
[9:18] You: Very nice, working hard definetely got you there
[9:19] You: Exploring, discovering, growing
[9:19] LincolnLog Rokocoko: growing in what way?
[9:19] LincolnLog Rokocoko: learning from mistakes?
[9:19] Daisy Bosatsu: vida what have you explored
[9:19] You: I feel happiest when I am in nature, so hiking fishing and camping are some of my favorite activities
[9:19] You: Yes precisely,
[9:19] LincolnLog Rokocoko: actual growing as in nature
[9:19] You: I have lived a long life, and learned most through experience gained from mistakes
[9:20] Daisy Bosatsu: mistakes is one of the best ways to learn from
[9:20] You: Nepal, Mongolia, Turkey, India, Russia, Switzerland, New Zealand, Australia, Argentina, Italy, France, England, many more
[9:20] You: But my house, in Colorado, offers the most tranquility
[9:20] Daisy Bosatsu: wow, those are amazing places
[9:20] LincolnLog Rokocoko: why is that do you think?
[9:20] You: What learning from mistakes?
[9:21] LincolnLog Rokocoko: no, that CO is the most tranquil?
[9:21] Daisy Bosatsu: i have never got to travel much, but i would love to
[9:21] You: It is hard to make a mistake, and recognize how you erred and how it affected you enough to make an effort to not repeat it
[9:21] Daisy Bosatsu: thats true vida
[9:21] Denton Dawg: Shall we unify this convesation?
[9:21] Daisy Bosatsu: yes please
[9:21] You: It offers mountains and streams, memories of childhood, and a sense of place and identity
[9:22] You: I have gone through many rebirths there, much self discovery
[9:22] You: and Much change and growth
[9:22] LincolnLog Rokocoko: thats great
[9:22] You: Because it is so important, I am on the President of the Board in Boulder
[9:22] Denton Dawg: would you say that CO embodied the birth of your leadership traits?
[9:22] Daisy Bosatsu: denton what do you feel is the best trait a leader shoul posess
[9:22] LincolnLog Rokocoko: i bet it offers a lot of opportunity for reflection and introspection
[9:22] You: It certainly motivated them
[9:22] LincolnLog Rokocoko: Colorado that is
[9:22] Denton Dawg: Me?
[9:23] Daisy Bosatsu: yes
[9:23] Denton Dawg: Aside from passion, confidence
[9:23] You: Very much so, as an extrovert naturally I always need a place to gain some inner perspective
[9:23] Denton Dawg: Confidence allows you to do the unexpected
[9:23] Daisy Bosatsu: yes thats very important
[9:23] Denton Dawg: and follow through
[9:23] You: Tell me more about that denten
[9:23] You: denton*
[9:23] Denton Dawg: and eventually succeed
[9:23] You: What unexpected things have you accomplished thanks to confidence?
[9:23] Daisy Bosatsu: i can imagine that being a successful doctor, you have to have alot of confidence
[9:23] Denton Dawg: Being a doctor, confidence is one thing I was instilled from the beginning
[9:23] You: Lets each take turns answering this
[9:24] You: Very true.
[9:24] You: ANd you Daisy?
[9:24] LincolnLog Rokocoko: does anyone else have a particular place that they go to for introspection?
[9:24] Daisy Bosatsu: whats the ? again i got lost in all of the typing
[9:24] You: Hey, let's stay on this confidence track for a bit and then roam to introspection?
[9:24] Denton Dawg: I concur
[9:24] You: Just because we have plenty of time
[9:24] LincolnLog Rokocoko: yeah sorry, im jsut having trouble keeping up
[9:24] You: But write that down Siggy
[9:24] You: haha
[9:25] You: Sig what accomplishments have you attained due to confidence?
[9:25] LincolnLog Rokocoko: I have put forth many new and challanging idea in the feild of psychology
[9:25] Daisy Bosatsu: like what
[9:25] You: I am sure that takes confidence, as many people probably doubted you
[9:26] Pose Ball: Denton Dawg, say 'Hide' to hide me, or 'Show' to make me show. Or just right-click and sit on me to use me.
[9:26] LincolnLog Rokocoko: like the idea that everything you do is driven in some way by the unconstious
[9:26] Daisy Bosatsu: thats interesting
[9:26] You: So that is where your analyzing dreams comes into play
[9:26] LincolnLog Rokocoko: haha
[9:26] LincolnLog Rokocoko: yes
[9:26] LincolnLog Rokocoko: and introspection
[9:26] You: Very nice
[9:27] You: it is hard to be introspective, I very often get so caught up in the now, i don't have time to truly evaluate my self
[9:27] Daisy Bosatsu: denton where did u go
[9:27] LincolnLog Rokocoko: it takes a great deal of honesty to the self to be able to admitt the uncontious drives for certian actions
[9:27] You: Hence why colorado is my sanctuary
[9:27] You: It certainly does, that ties into the whole idea of learning from mistakes as well
[9:28] LincolnLog Rokocoko: yes it does
[9:28] You: Being able to recognize a characteristic in yourself that caused you to act in a certain way, good or bad
[9:28] LincolnLog Rokocoko: to be able to admitt where the mistake actually occured
[9:28] You: Precisely
[9:28] LincolnLog Rokocoko: even the small ones
[9:28] LincolnLog Rokocoko: and seeming accidents
[9:28] Denton Dawg: That, too, is part of leadership!
[9:28] Denton Dawg: Would you think so?
[9:28] You: Confidence, one of my best characteristics, has pushed me to do new things as well
[9:29] LincolnLog Rokocoko: what things?
[9:29] You: Most definetely, a good leader is a sympathetic leader
[9:29] LincolnLog Rokocoko: you run marathons
[9:29] LincolnLog Rokocoko: you seem to be very driven
[9:29] You: Well, for instance, I fought for the feminist movement, as well as civil rights movements
[9:29] Daisy Bosatsu: people really respond to sympathetic leaders
[9:29] LincolnLog Rokocoko: is there something particular that drives you?
[9:29] Daisy Bosatsu: good for you vida
[9:29] You: Growing up in a small town, I knew I was meant for more
[9:30] You: It was hard though, we had servants who called me "Miss Grayson" and it was practically custom
[9:30] Daisy Bosatsu: i know what you mean about the small town vida
[9:30] You: But After fighting for what I believed in, losing friends and family, then gaining them back by leading them with me, I became a very successful attorney
[9:30] LincolnLog Rokocoko: did you also feel a need to escape daisy?
[9:30] Denton Dawg: What sparked you to lead, Vida?
[9:30] LincolnLog Rokocoko: that you were meant for something greater?
[9:30] Daisy Bosatsu: yes i did
[9:31] You: yeah
[9:31] You: Tell me about your small town, maybe ours are similar
[9:31] You: Although I was born almost 75 years ago
[9:31] Daisy Bosatsu: small towns shelter you, and they dont allow you to fully develop into the person you become
[9:31] You: yes, they can be a huge deterrence, most of the time just because communities can be that more judgmental
[9:31] Daisy Bosatsu: well. its very country. alot of land
[9:32] You: The "social norm" is much harder to break when everyone talks
[9:32] Denton Dawg: I grew up in Houston
[9:32] Daisy Bosatsu: but its beginning to grow, more people are moving there
[9:32] You: I grew up in Beaumont
[9:32] You: What city is it?
[9:32] Denton Dawg: and I have lived a majority of my life there
[9:32] LincolnLog Rokocoko: it is hard to really listen in a small town becuase you get caught up in what you want to ehar and think you should be hearing
[9:33] You: Right.
[9:33] You: It's hard to break free
[9:33] Daisy Bosatsu: thats very true
[9:33] You: College really opened that up for me
[9:33] LincolnLog Rokocoko: there are so many social morres
[9:33] You: I went to Randolph Macon, a decision I later regretted , because they considered a college education practically unnecessary since we were all supposed to end up as Housewives
[9:34] Daisy Bosatsu: well i didnt really get a chance to go to college until recently, but working in the city helped my mind to expand
[9:34] You: Did any books in particular help you guys learn what or how to be a leader?
[9:34] Daisy Bosatsu: i dont get a chance to read much
[9:34] Denton Dawg: Why is that?
[9:34] You: Oh, big worker?
[9:34] LincolnLog Rokocoko: i love poetry and philosophy
[9:34] Daisy Bosatsu: well, im a single mother. so im working most of the time
[9:34] LincolnLog Rokocoko: passions that are somewhat strange for a dotor to have
[9:35] You: I feel like reading is extremely important, because learning not only from your mistakes but also others can be useful.
[9:35] Daisy Bosatsu: i agree
[9:35] Denton Dawg: I do too
[9:35] You: I know the feeling, My husband died when my eldest of three boys was only 8.
[9:35] Daisy Bosatsu: wow, that had to be challenging
[9:35] Denton Dawg: however, in a highy stressful environment of a doctor, we usually learn from each other rather than from books
[9:35] LincolnLog Rokocoko: reading and listening
[9:36] LincolnLog Rokocoko: i suppose reading could be a form of listening
[9:36] Denton Dawg: Journals are the key to our unification, however
[9:36] You: It was... i tried so hard to create a happy home, a good living, and be a supportive mother
[9:36] Cameron Reinard shouts: until otherwise shown, we can
[9:36] You: In the end, they all turned out like fine individuals
[9:36] Daisy Bosatsu: i think books and one on one interactions with people helps you learn
[9:36] You: Yes.
[9:36] You: Listening is key.
[9:36] Denton Dawg: How do each of you instill positive traits in others?
[9:36] Daisy Bosatsu: yes, so did i but i wasnt able to spend alot of quality time with my children
[9:37] You: Listening most of the time
[9:37] LincolnLog Rokocoko: listening is definitely key!
[9:37] LincolnLog Rokocoko: and passion
[9:37] You: I also don't like to project my ideas on others, i just lead through example
[9:37] You: I firmly believe actions speak louder than words
[9:37] Daisy Bosatsu: well, i install positive traits in my children by telling them how much i love them everyday
[9:37] LincolnLog Rokocoko: i think listening is one of the best way to help people
[9:38] Daisy Bosatsu: ...and to go after their aspirations
[9:38] LincolnLog Rokocoko: only then can you truely understand their problems
[9:38] You: If people recognize your passions, they feel compelled to understand them, and if they are good passions, the learners ultimately gain positive traits
[9:38] Daisy Bosatsu: i agree vida
[9:38] Denton Dawg: I try to make an environmen conducive to growth
[9:38] You: Being a good leader is knowing how to listen, to lead, and to love all at the same time
[9:38] Denton Dawg: envorinment*
[9:38] LincolnLog Rokocoko: leading through example is great, but action is necessary too i think
[9:38] You: Me too Denton
[9:39] You: Well by example i mean action- liking making a stand or example
[9:39] Daisy Bosatsu: i agree lincolnlog: by practicing what you preach shows that it can be done
[9:39] You: That is one of teh main reasons I started going to Colorado, it is an environment conducive to growth
[9:39] LincolnLog Rokocoko: actively seeking opporunities to help other poeple, by showing them the light for instance
[9:40] You: Right
[9:40] LincolnLog Rokocoko: illuminating the lives of others through what you have learned in yours
[9:40] Denton Dawg: Works well in psychotherapy
[9:40] Daisy Bosatsu: i do that with my clients
[9:40] LincolnLog Rokocoko: do you really?
[9:40] LincolnLog Rokocoko: i do too....
[9:40] LincolnLog Rokocoko: lol
[9:40] Daisy Bosatsu: i try to help them make the best out of their situations
[9:40] You: So nice talking to you all.
[9:40] LincolnLog Rokocoko: likewise